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Confidence: A Sign of Maturity

I had a conversation with an old friend of mine recently. Knowing her from childhood, she was a girl who usually cried or gave up on the first sight of trouble, hassle or even just a small threat to what seemed to be her “plan”. However, I was surprised to see her being spontaneous and fearless. When I asked her how she changed, she just said “life happened”. What I sensed was great confidence in her stride, in her stare and in the way she did things. Confidence can gain charisma, and that was what she had.

Gaining confidence is about facing fears. Confidence is an asset of a human when it comes to facing something threatening, a great and virtually impossible goal or something that they deeply fear. With confidence, a man or woman can think properly, assess the situation with individual transparency for all factors and perform all their duties in the best way they know how. Confidence also requires the acceptance of changes in one’s life.

Fears, threats and impossibilities are the limits we impose on ourselves. By going over the boundaries of our fears, we defeat the limits we recognize. A sign of maturity is knowing what you fear, but a sign of greater growth is overcoming that particular fear. Confidence is a sign of maturity, but a better sign of maturity is using all your learnings not through your mouth, but through action.

Confidence is mustered when a person does what he or she does best. They do not need to exclaim the fact that they can; instead, they do what they could actually do. Confidence is also a marketing principle. Consumer confidence can be raised because of advertising, but if the product fails to execute the promise of the advertisements, the consumer confidence level drops. The right way to use confidence is not through the mouth, but, like my old friend, in the way you walk, you do things and the way you carry yourself.

Thu, August 9 2012 » Self Help and Advice

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